The Stories We Tell Ourselves
Have you ever noticed how a single sentence—just one quiet thought—can creep in, permeate the terrain, and stop you in your tracks?
“I’m not the kind of person who sticks with things.”
“I always mess it up eventually.”
“I just don’t have what it takes.”
“I’m too old.”
“I’m too young.”
“I’m not ready.”
“I don’t know what I’m doing.”
“I just CAN’T.”
“I don’t have the time.”
“I don’t have the right space.”
“I’ll always be stuck.”
“I can’t trust myself.”
Here’s the truth: Limiting beliefs like these are often inherited, shaped by trauma, culture/society, or past experiences—not by facts.
But we live as if they’re laws.
Most of us don’t even realize when these beliefs started. They sneak in quietly. Sometimes they sound like our own voice. Sometimes they echo the voice of a parent, a teacher, or a moment that left a mark on our hearts.
For a long time, I believed that I wasn’t worth it; that I wasn’t enough. I believed I wasn’t worth the work, I believed that change wasn’t possible for me. I believed I didn’t deserve help or space to heal. I never questioned it. I just made excuses around it, avoided taking action because of it, and stayed small to stay “safe,” and comfortable.
But the truth is: that belief wasn’t mine.
It was borrowed. Conditioned. Inherited.
It felt like Truth, but it wasn’t.
It was just a story.
Fortunately stories can be rewritten.
Limiting beliefs usually begin in moments of vulnerability—when we needed support but got silence, needed love but received criticism, or when we failed and internalized it as identity.
This can come from:
Childhood experiences and conditioning
Cultural narratives and expectations
Past trauma or emotional pain
Fear of failure, success, or judgment
And the thing is, we start to live as if these beliefs are true. We don’t apply for the job. We don’t go after the thing we really want. We stay stuck… not because we’re incapable, but because we believe we are.
Belief in what’s possible underpins so much of the journey you take.
How to Start Unlearning the Lies
The first step is awareness. What is the story you’ve been telling yourself? What are the lies?
Catch the belief in the wild. When it shows up in your self-talk, pause and ask:
Where did this belief come from?
Is it true? Is it always true?
Who would I be without this belief?
Then, gently challenge it.
Reframe it into something more empowering. Even if it doesn’t feel 100% “true” yet—it plants a new seed.
Example: Instead of “I’m bad at taking care of myself,” try “I’m learning to prioritize myself in small, meaningful ways.”
Small shifts make big changes.
Shattering limiting beliefs isn’t about snapping your fingers and becoming a new person. It’s about noticing, challenging, and choosing again—daily.
Here are a few small shifts to try this week:
Write down one limiting belief you’ve carried—and rewrite it.
Say a new belief out loud, like a mantra.
Take one tiny action to support the new belief.
Surround yourself with voices that reflect what’s possible, not what’s broken.
You’re Not Broken—You’re Becoming
You don’t have to believe everything you think.
And you’re allowed to let go of beliefs that were never yours to begin with.
The journey of wellness isn’t just about the body or the habits—it’s also about the mindset behind the choices.
You are capable. You are worthy. You are not too late.
You’re just getting started.
Go get ‘em!
Be Well
L
